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Fuck Yeah Femmes: what is even DISCUSSED at a “femme conference”…? how to continue...

mrsexsmith:

fuckyeahfemmes:

what is even DISCUSSED at a “femme conference”…? how to continue reinforcing stereotypes and relegating people to specific, pre-determined categories based on SUPER out-dated notions on what it means to be a gay woman? laaaame. Source: juliaperchance

Probably anyone who would attend a femme conference wouldn’t feel that they were “relegated” to that category, they would self-identify as femme (asserting their own sense of agency around their sexuality and gender identity) and they would probably want to discuss issues such as stereotypes about queerness and femininity, thus proving that “femme” is something that is constantly being redefined and redetermined, not something that is simply forced upon them. Not everyone who identifies as femme is gay or a woman either. The fact that people have such negative associations with femme identification, (even and especially within the queer community) is the reason that this annual event happens- providing a space to think through such issues in a non-threatening environment. 

What is discussed? Femme invisibility, creating femme identity in radical & responsible ways, community, queer markers … and tons of other stuff. 

And by the way, femme identity is not “outdated.” There are thousands of people creating and re-creating femininity in queer contexts which are liberating and celebratory, not full of restriction or judgement, and which are created for the person to feel good in their body and with their gender expression. To lump femme identity in with some notion of the binary gender roles reproduced on “gay women” is to seriously miss the gender revolution that is happening right now.

yikes. it’s so seriously sad to me that some queer women don’t undertand that no one is asking them to identify as femme.

but me? i AM femme. 

so please don’t be so myopic to assume that this is an outdated notion, because femme, to me, feels right. i’m so glad this conference exists, so that we CAN play with and celebrate that identity, so that we CAN recognize each other in the absence of a heteronormative lens.

  1. grrlyman reblogged this from fuckyeahfemmes and added:
    ableist and femmephobic language ahead.
  2. terrangirl reblogged this from fuckyeahfemmes and added:
    reblogging of this. Yes yes yes. And...whoever posted this question
  3. fuckyeahsnackables reblogged this from temenosquetres and added:
    For temenosquetres I have a pocketful of *swoon* and another pocketful of “fuck yeah that’s what I’m talking about.”...
  4. temenosquetres reblogged this from sp0ka and added:
    I’m going to the Femme Conference [if all works out!] to try to help gain a respite from the folks who share the OP’s...
  5. vintagecashmere reblogged this from fuckyeahfemmes
  6. ohbettinadear reblogged this from mrsexsmith and added:
    yikes. it’s so seriously sad to me that some queer women don’t undertand that no one is asking them to identify as...
  7. capitolfemme reblogged this from mrsexsmith
  8. mrsexsmith reblogged this from fuckyeahfemmes and added:
    What is discussed? Femme invisibility, creating femme identity in radical & responsible ways, community, queer markers …...
  9. galesofnovember reblogged this from saltmarshhag and added:
    We made “Femme Mafia” patches to sew on our hoodies, back in the day. They were pink and showed a fist holding lipstick....
  10. sp0ka reblogged this from delisubthefemmecub and added:
    Why is the OP even on the internet why. Read some books instead, then return to the internet.
  11. notyrqueer reblogged this from delisubthefemmecub and added:
    it takes like two seconds to look up last conference’s workshop/panel descriptions. You are such a troll.
  12. pomme-poire-peche reblogged this from delisubthefemmecub and added:
    Commentary. Holy crap, they still make people like the OP? (femme cissexual boy here! And I would so go to a femme...
  13. designatedwife reblogged this from talldarkbishoujo and added:
    I’m so sick of anti-femme bullshit. Shaming women for stuff like this is fucking counterproductive. Also “lame”? Nice...
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  16. kylieriot reblogged this from fuckyeahfemmes and added:
    Reblogging for commentary, because COSIGNED. And I’d like to commend fuckyeahfemmes for this polite, informative, and...
  17. bookwormfemme reblogged this from femmesandfamily
  18. delisubthefemmecub reblogged this from fuckyeahfemmes and added:
    who… WOAH WTF ORIGINAL ASKER. TAKE YOUR FEMMEPHOBIA AND GTFO. p.s....an ableist term.
  19. femmesandfamily reblogged this from fuckyeahfemmes and added:
    It is fine if you don’t identify with this gender identity, but why do you feel the need to assert that it is “lame” if...
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